Are you letting the men in suits hold you back?
I had a dream last night that stayed with me when I woke up. I always explore lingering dreams because I believe they have a message for me.
In my dream, I was approaching a red light in a small town. My SUV was rolling slowly and I thought it would stop without the need to brake. Of course, it didn’t and I bumped into a panel van already stopped. It was a very gentle nudge. I waited to see if the driver would even get out. Suddenly all four doors on the vehicle opened and four men in suits and ties got out (Harvey Specter and Mike Ross types as pictured above). It was very serious. And it was a dream.
They took me into a room and then proceeded to analyze every aspect of what had happened. It wasn’t a threatening interrogation and I wasn’t being forcefully held but it was exhausting. They watched the dashcam video and talked about it over and over again. Hours passed and eventually, I just left. No-one stopped me. They just kept talking. I remember thinking, "if they need me they can track me down."
What was that all about?
It seems obvious to me in the morning light. I am making something way more complicated in my life than it needs to be. I’ve been working on my book proposal for Disappoint More People. It's my first proposal and I'm clearly anxious about getting it right. I'm stressing about it more than I normally do about projects I work on. I am the four men in suits - albeit not as well dressed. It's time to just get it done and trust I've done my best.
Can you relate?
We have so much information available to us and it is easy to get stuck in research mode. We can get very comfortable spending our time looking at every possible aspect of a decision and never making a choice. We can get stuck looking for the right thing to do or the perfect decision. And we just keep circling around not making any progress.
Think of one area of your life where you feel stuck. If you journal look back over the past few months and see what you continually struggle with on your pages. Here are some questions to consider:
What are you making complicated?
What is the easiest thing you can do to get the results you want?
What is the simplest thing you can do?
What is holding you back?
Who are you afraid of disappointing?
Do you need support?
Take action. You can always change course. Life is an experiment. You try things and sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t. You make mistakes, You move on. You can trust yourself. Be wary of getting bogged down in research and analysis hoping to come up with the perfect answer to your challenges. Do the next right thing and see where it takes you.