I can't tell you how many times I've talked to women who feel stuck in their lives because making the change they want to make would mean disappointing someone else.

 

We are hurting ourselves.

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Here are some examples I've encountered:

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• I want to drink less but I worry I would lose my friends.

• I would like to quit my job but I spent a lot of money on education and my partner would be upset.

• I would like to leave the church but I am afraid of what people would think.

• I want to get a __________ but my close friends would judge me.

• I'd like to sell everything and travel for a year and then start all over again.

• I'd like to start a business or write a book but what would people think?

• I want out of my relationship but I can't handle hurting people.

• I feel like I can't say what I think without making someone angry.

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Living up to the expectations of other people and being afraid to disappoint anyone can keep us stuck living a life that isn't aligned with who we are and what we want. 

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Did you know the number one regret of the dying is:

 

"I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself."

 

(Source: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware)

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I understand. I've learned how to stop letting my fear of what people think and chronic people-pleasing hold me back from pursuing what I want in my life. It's great to have values but if you aren't free to live by them you won't see the change and transformation you long for in your life. 

 

It's time to live your life.