I’ve been married forty years. Longer than many of my peers. How do two people stay together that long? Here are my thoughts on what has worked for us. It isn’t sexy but it has worked.

This living document will be updated throughout the summer. Readers are invited to share their summer reading lists.

Lesson from an avid reader with a limited budget. You will never have enough time to read all the books. Here are some ideas to help you manage your to-be-read pile.

Even people who highly value honesty can find it easy to be dishonest with themselves. We wouldn’t dare lie to someone else, but we let ourselves down constantly.

We don’t always know when the last time we do something will happen. I’ve said goodbye to midway rides willingly. I’ve also had to say goodbye when it is out of my hands. Doing the work of a wise elder helps us to be ready for those endings.

Big decisions are difficult. There are so many considerations. Here’s what I learned recently when we almost bought a new house. One of my favourite coaching conversations is helping people discern what they want to do. Indecision can keep you stuck.

Mother’s Day is getting out of hand. And it has moved beyond its original intent. It is time to rethink it.

A retirement party isn’t just a goodbye. It is an important ritual to bring closure to the end of a chapter. Learn more about Sacred Rituals.

What do you want your loved ones to know about your life? How do you want to be remembered? Ethical wills or legacy writing is a beautiful way to reflect and harvest the stories of your life that are significant. Your values, beliefs and hopes for the next generation can be preserved in your words. Don’t underestimate the gift a legacy letter can be to the next generation.

It’s been seven years since we launched Reframe Your Life. We’ve all had lots of opportunities during the pandemic to reframe life. Aging is another time in our lives when we need to step back and think about what we want and what we are being told is possible and make some choices for ourselves. Reframing aging can help you become a wise elder.

Legacy writing and ethical wills are a way of leaving more than a financial inheritance for the people you live. Imagine the gift that reading or hearing your words will be in the future. The chances are you won’t get around to it alone. I’m offering a workshop to help you get started. Discover how you can make peace with mortality and find the freedom to live more fully, knowing you’ve taken care of this significant gift. You don’t have to be rich to leave a legacy.

Sacred Rituals can sound woo-woo. It may feel outside your comfort zone. You don’t need to go all YaYa Sisterhood in your ritual. You can create something to honour a milestone that reflects who you are and what feels authentic to you. Here are three reasons to consider Sacred Rituals.

Why is ‘reading the room’ a good thing? Is it another way we take too much responsibility for other people? What about being an initiator? There are ways we are carrying the burden for other people that are not ours to carry.

Life-long learning is a quality of wise people. We are never complete. We always have something new to discover about ourselves and about the world we live in. No one teaches us how to age.

Letting go of long-held beliefs can be frightening. You may experience the loss of community. You may question the choices you have made your entire life. You will feel alone at times. These books will be companions on the journey.

These are my top recommendations on conscious ageing.

These books have helped me the most as a chronic people-pleaser and conflict-avoider.